So, Christmas is just around the corner. It is supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, yet many of us do not feel wonderful at all. For those of us whose drug of choice is food, it can be the most torturous time of the year. There are mass quantities of food everywhere we turn. What is an overeater supposed to do?
Christmas is a time where many of us give up on ourselves. We lie to ourselves and justify our endless overeating. After all, “we are waiting for the New Year.” We just eat and drink without regard for the consequences and the extra pounds, which will likely add to our self -loathing the moment the “wonderful” is over. When we give up on ourselves until a predestined date, we lose out on what’s important now. Let’s face it, you’ve been hanging on to that goal to lose 10, 20, 30 pounds for many moons now. Will a couple of binges at Christmas really make a difference? Nope. So we keep stuffing our faces.
What will make a difference today, is how you feel TODAY. Instead of putting all your weight on that New Year’s Resolution (pun intended) that has never worked out, why not focus on the here and now? Give yourself the gift of a good stop and think before eating.
I don’t mean plan in advance exactly what you will eat. That’s lame, and never works out anyway. I mean plan in advance of said gathering how you want to feel, and the result that feeling will get you.
Let me share my plans for Christmas dinner this year
I’ve already decided I want to feel light and energetic. I want to beat all of our kids and nieces at ping pong and then I want to fill my evening with board games and fun. When Christmas dinner time approaches, I want to feel in control and I want to BE in control of my eating.
Inevitably, I will have the urge to over eat. When that urge shows up, I will question myself, “What will having three plates of food do for me? What will pulling up a chair to the dessert buffet accomplish? How will I feel afterward the buffet binge? Why do I feel the need to overeat right now?”
We all deserve to eat, drink and be merry. I’m certainly not implying that you shouldn’t enjoy the many delicious pleasures of the holidays. However, I’ve decided in advance that it’s more important to actually be present with our kids than it is to eat. I don’t want to be struggling for my breath, comatose on the couch. I don’t want to use food to fuel any feelings of self-hatred or disappointment. I want to eat because I deserve to eat well, I deserve to enjoy every bite and I deserve to feel good about the food going into my mouth. I want to look back on Christmas Eve and fondly remember how I demolished the kids at ping pong, not regret all of the food that I ate. I most certainly don’t want to feel like a sausage in my new Christmas dress.
My 3 Questions for YOU this Christmas
- What do I want to remember the MOST about Christmas 2016?
- Why do I equate overeating with “treating” myself?
- Is there a situation or a feeling that I am trying to avoid by turning to the dessert buffet?
There is no wagon. You’re not on it or off it. You’re living your life for today, not for some predetermined, arbitrary date. All we have is TODAY. You are not a robot stuffing crap into your mouth. Choose how you want to feel before you eat, and then stick to eating in a way that will bring you your desired feeling state.
Do you know what the true beauty of Christmas is? YOU get to choose YOUR feeling states and then bask in YOUR results. By approaching each gathering this way, I promise you will indeed eat, drink and most importantly, BE MERRY!
Merry Christmas to all of my friends, family and clients!
Don’t wait until the New Year to start your journey to flourishing. Stop putting it off, let’s get started today. Book your FREE mini-session now. I can work with you to help you manage your food issues over the holidays and set you up for success. Give yourself a gift this Christmas and let’s chat.