“She is clothed in strength and dignity.” Proverbs 31:25

Perfectionism + Eating Issues.

Oh Lord do I struggle with perfectionism. And it’s comin’ to a head these days.

Can you relate, Friend?

If you follow me on Instagram, you’ve seen my recent obsession with the book Present over Perfect by Shauna Niequist. If you don’t follow me…what the heck? Find me @flourishintoyou

Isn’t the idea in that title alone, PRESENT OVER PERFECT, just delicious?

How many areas in your life can this delicious idea trickle down to?

The most obvious to me is how I spend my time at home. I’m seldomly present. I’m there alright but mostly working hard at the perfection-y end of things; a perfectly tidy + organized house + laundry folded daily + all things in their perfect place daily.

Yup. Check, check, check. It all looks great. The exterior, that is.

Truth is-I’ve gone to bed with sad eyes and a heavy heart lately.

I see how little, real time I spend with my husband, my son and my step children. I’m there. I’m getting them all the things they need, but-other than sitting down to eat meals together-I’m rarely present. Maybe I’ve never been. And this, Sisters, is a tough pill to swallow.

If I invited you to my house for dinner I’d be up the nanosecond it was acceptable to leave the table. You’d find me hovering around the kitchen at mach speed until the kitchen was perfectly clean and all the things were back in their perfect order. Because that’s super fun and oh so connecting to chime in randomly to the conversation from the kitchen.

I’m missing the connection. A lot.

As it relates to food and our bodies, there’s a lot to say here. Read on to learn about what perfectionism can do to your weight struggles…

Let’s face it. Perfection=impossible. We are all mortals.

When there is so much anxiety + brain space being used up to attain the impossible trophy of perfection and then that golden star is out of our reach…how do you comfort yourself at the end of an exhausting Hour? Day? Week?

If it’s food for you, don’t be ashamed.

Turning to food is an understandable choice considering we are cultured that way-toward food being comfort. Except food only provides very momentary, very fleeting comfort. And when the tub of Hagen Daaz is empty {again}, we are left with our bloated bodies and our self abuse for failing the diet {again}, which is just a cover up for a failing at perfection.

I’ve learned the art of not comforting myself with food. I’ve yet to learn the art of being present over perfect.

Today I don’t have a 5-step suggestion or the perfect tool that I know for sure works for being present. If one comes to me, you’ll be the first to know.

Here’s what I know for sure.

Instead of trying to attain the perfect body, work on attaining your perfect body for your life and your season of life right now. Use that beautiful body not to attain perfection, but to attain presence in all the beautiful things that your imperfect body enables you to do in this imperfect life.

With all my imperfect love,
Crystal, XO.

PS-Highly recommending you pick up a copy of Present over Perfect. Here’s the Amazon link. It’s a Christian book, with non-traditional ideas. If either of those things offend you, likely not the book for you

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